You need some self love!

Hey there… I’m going to try and persuade  you to take a few minutes or a few hours or heck even a day to just give yourself some good ol self love! Yes You!I mean You! You work soo damn hard.  Always looking out for other people’s happiness. Always making sure that others are happy. Going that extra mile and along the line breaking down but quickly picking yourself up and continuing with that cycle. Hell you must be superman or wonder woman! In doing all this, do you ever consider yourself for just a minute?

Listen you need to take a break and give yourself some self love! The definition of self love according to the Collins dictionary (don’t check that of the Urban Dictionary!) is the instinct or tendency to seek one’s own well-being. 

So what are you waiting for? Your employer thinks you are a great employee because you never take a day off or when you go on leave you tend to check in on work. Your friends and family know they can count on you for certain asks… but deep down you know that its only taking more of the time you could have spent on yourself. Oh but darling why are you killing yourself?! Psychologically and emotionally you are harming yourself. I ain’t got the science to prove it but believe me you are. Have you ever gone on leave or a break and not ever thought about your job or the 1001 problems you have or could potentially have? Someone! please! can you live in the moment? The beautiful moment that passes by once you duck your head into your gadget, that beautiful phenomenon that passes without you seeing it because you were too busy looking up that Instagram photo on your phone. It’s gone… you can never witness it again. Shame on you!

Can you decide to travel without your laptop or decide to unplug off social media just for those two precious days that you may never get back? Believe me, you’ll not only enjoy the nature and ambience of where you decide to go but you’ll also get a total mind renewal that you will have no words to describe.

I guess what I’m driving at are these few nuggets:

  1. Take every moment and enjoy it like you’re never going to get it back.
  2. Care for yourself mentally and spiritually.
  3. YOU also need to be happy. There is nothing wrong with that.
  4. You only have one life…enjoy it whilst you’re alive.
  5. Once a while be selfish and think about yourself.

I may or may not have persuaded you to get some self love and always be in the moment. However, I hope I managed to get someone to rethink of how they are going to spend their break or vacation and to also love themselves some more.

If you enjoyed this post, share it with someone who you think will even be happier to read it.

In this picture I took a solitude break at this beautiful escape in Kumasi, around Lake Bosomwti to be specific. It’s called The Green Ranch. I literally had the lake to myself! lol! I enjoyed the peace and quiet as well as the beautiful scenery. If you love horses, that’ll be a bonus! Its a horse ranch as well.

All the best!


Something about the Clouds and Sunsets has got me mesmerised…

I think i have become quite obsessed with the clouds and sunsets lately. I live a few minutes from the beach and even though I do not go to the beach often, once I do pop out there, I make it a memorable one. This is because it usually takes a long while before I pass through again!

So recently on a beautiful sunny day, my childhood friend passed through and I managed to convince her to go watch the sunset with me. 🙂 Here are a few shots I managed to capture even though we totally missed the sunset!




PS: I shot this with my Samsung Galaxy S6 Phone. ( Y’all thought i was gonna mention some fancy camera huh! lol)

❤ ❤ ❤

My Fav Fashion Items

Today I’m introducing a few of my favourite fashion items that some of you may have realised I have been rocking lately… 🙂  I picked some of them at Numero Uno in Accra (really love that store) and got some from H&M (one of my BFF shops for me from the US).  Get ready for these on heavy repeat. Lol.  

Wishing everyone a happy Tuesday and relaxing week!

The Print Skirt

MASH UP outfit : tribal pencil Mr Price skirt – army Mr Price t-shirt


The Blazer

Can’t go wrong with white t-shirt, jeans, heels, and a black blazer. Its the blazer/jacket/cardi that pulls it all together – dont forget!



I love this style! Red blazer, blue navy tank top and a gorgeous patterned skirt that goes back to the basic colors.


The Kimono Number

Kimono Sweater Cardigan


Studded Kimono Cardigan


With love ❤

Who said it’ll be Easy? Don’t give up!

You must have probably heard or read about this for the umpteenth time but hey, a lot of people out there are still wondering if it’s safe to pursue or chase their dreams. I used to be one of such people till I manned up and said to myself, “It doesn’t matter if I fail, after all there are 365 days in a year. If plan A doesn’t work, Plan B MUST definitely work”.  This became my mantra for a year till I created a new one,” if you work really hard and are kind, Amazing things will happen” . One thing I have learnt in the initial stages of my business and in my career is that it doesn’t matter who you are or your career status, we all worry about achieving our greatest goals and also worry that we don’t have what it takes to overcome the challenges in front of us.  Today, I would like to share a list that I found on Kathy Romeros blog which I read every morning before I step out:

  • It’s not where you are today, but where you see yourself that matters. Stay focused on your end-goal and don’t forget the big picture
  • There is no such thing as a true and lasting “overnight success”. No great thing is created suddenly. Life is a one-day-at-a-time kind of thing
  • If you don’t dream, you give up on yourself before even trying
  • Nobody said it would be easy. If it were easy, everyone would do it
  • You are worth the effort and time and sacrifices
  • Hardships tend to occur right before success
  • You knew there would be obstacles; now know you can overcome them gracefully
  • If you give up on yourself everyone else will, too
  • Fear will cloud your mind if you allow it to
  • Failure is not an option; it’s a stepping-stone
  • You will become what you expect yourself to be
  • If you do nothing, you change nothing
  • There are people who believe in you


Truth be told I encountered numerous failures when I  started Urban Lilac. I However didn’t let my failure deter me.  I learnt my lessons and overcame all those obstacles gracefully. Today I am still dreaming of wonderful things for Urban Lilac. I don’t think I will ever stop chasing my dreams.

I hope someone gets inspired today 🙂